On Complications and Quirkiness...
Is the quest for normal overrated? My relationship with my husband is, often, complicated. I ask myself why is this...to no avail, of course. But to see my daughters have relationships that are (at best) quirky and complicated, I wonder if the example my marriage has set has been a healthy one.
Take, for example, Darlin' Daughter and her "friend," Dave. Dave spend most of New Year's Eve on the elbow of DD. Not actually touching her elbow, but near it at all times. Dave has said he isn't going to 'get serious' until his 20's. Gee, really??!! Is that why he spent most of the evening trying to convince DD to go to Case Western, the college HE attends? (Maybe it is school pride, but I have my doubts.) Truevaleman and I even went so far as to tell Dave the saga of our first year together...he later told DD he thought we were funny and "interesting" and that he had a nice time with us. (We told him, you marry the whole package, not just the girl...longer story on that.) She insists that he doesn't like her. But my gut tells me sooo different. (In fact, my gut says this is probably my son-in-law to-be~)I have been wrong before, so time will play this out. Geez!
And then there is Gladys and Jeremy. Gladys says that she a nd Jeremy are just friends. Oh, really? I don't think "friends" cuddle like that! She says they are not boyfirend and girlfriend. Really? Ask around...I think my assumption of that relationship is on par with everyone else's.
Quirky? Complicated? Are these the earmarks of good relationships or are they the environmental behavior patterns unwittingly passed down from me to them?
Take, for example, Darlin' Daughter and her "friend," Dave. Dave spend most of New Year's Eve on the elbow of DD. Not actually touching her elbow, but near it at all times. Dave has said he isn't going to 'get serious' until his 20's. Gee, really??!! Is that why he spent most of the evening trying to convince DD to go to Case Western, the college HE attends? (Maybe it is school pride, but I have my doubts.) Truevaleman and I even went so far as to tell Dave the saga of our first year together...he later told DD he thought we were funny and "interesting" and that he had a nice time with us. (We told him, you marry the whole package, not just the girl...longer story on that.) She insists that he doesn't like her. But my gut tells me sooo different. (In fact, my gut says this is probably my son-in-law to-be~)I have been wrong before, so time will play this out. Geez!
And then there is Gladys and Jeremy. Gladys says that she a nd Jeremy are just friends. Oh, really? I don't think "friends" cuddle like that! She says they are not boyfirend and girlfriend. Really? Ask around...I think my assumption of that relationship is on par with everyone else's.
Quirky? Complicated? Are these the earmarks of good relationships or are they the environmental behavior patterns unwittingly passed down from me to them?
5 comments:
overthink it much??
hehe... but seriously... they are from a loving home and will seek a loving home. that is what matters.
yep...sounds normal to me!
was just wondering-that's all...seems strange to see the girls develope "relationships" and it's hard to just let it go!
ah, but let it go you must... i've had to let go in matters of my cubs' hearts, as you well know, so i know from whence i speak!
they are just exploring their options at this point... normal and age appropriate... and looking for your reaction... the more you react the more they act... plus, i agree w/ freaky!
so, lilmsboopeep, leave 'em alone and they'll come home waggin' their tails and happy to greet thee!
dang!
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