Tuesday, June 27, 2006

the second email

I did not see this e-mail before the other. Chris has most certainly taken sides, she has called me a liar. Actually, this is an exaggeration...She and Frank had a different view of a certain childhood situation. I can't even remember what, but I simply told her that was not the same story told to me by Frank and Gramma.I actually did not truly realize how Frank really was or how much animus he had for me until they moved there. I don't hate Frank, just frustrated that I keep getting told how awful a daughter I was to mom and how great Frank is. Um...she is an awful daughter and I do think highly of my uncle!

Love Frank, fine. But it seemed to me that Chris stopped loving me and took on Frank's animus toward me as well. Here we go again...Chris cannot truly think for herself; she has no ability to discern the truth, always being influenced by someone else. Ironically, she warned my father's lawyer's to not have this very same opinion of me. Interesting how she can forget when I don't agree with her.She accused me of never doing things to help her with the kids, like taking care of them for days at a time - it was like she had complete amnesia for the many trips I made out there every year. Woa! I don't think I ever SAID that! The last few trips she has made out have evolved solely around what SHE had to do, and not about the kids. But, I haven't even had such a conversation with her.

Perhaps Chris is the one who has to decide if she can love Frank and still be close to me and not shut me out of her life like she did before. Perhaps I could if I wasn't always asked to chose sides!

As I said, the ball is in her court. I can't e-mail her, she has turned that off. he he he!I can't write her as I know she won't read it. You said I dare not speak to her directly. Exactly what are you expecting me to do?

I apologized and tried at first to make it up to her, but she would not listen and cut me off.
I could not do anything about it! catherine She never did actually apologize...it was more like...an explaination of why she turned us in to the state. Some apology!

5 comments:

CastleBear said...

she is a raging lunatic... everything is always about her!

if she truly cared about having a relationship with you, the focus would be on having a relationship with you and not about all the presumed wrongs that have been committed against her!

my so called happy place said...

mhhm...

i think there were similar things in the letters i've read from nonno. wasn't me.. i "tried"... must be her problem... blah blah blah...

we love you chris!!!

CastleBear said...

so true, freaky, so true!!!

CastleBear said...

we love you just the way you are... you're perfect!

mamao4 said...

thanx guys, it means alot!